Developing Assertive Communication
“The art of communication is the language of leadership”- James Humes
In raising children as leaders of their own personal development, it is important that they understand and embrace the different types of communication. These are;
- Verbal communication: engaging with others by speaking, some children are rather more outspoken than others.
- Non Verbal communication: the use of body language like facial expressions.
- Written communication: some children may prefer to express themselves through writing and are therefore encouraged to journal.
The child’s style of communication says a lot about them.
Passive: in this style the child avoids to express their opinions, feelings or needs and thus allows the buildup of annoyance and grievances.
Aggressive: here a child is usually loud and demanding and usually expresses their opinions without a care of the rights of others.
Passive aggressive: the child may use body language instead of open communication and would rather not confront someone who violates their right. Such communication may have silent treatment or trying to sabotage others effort.
Assertive: this is the most effective style of communication that a child should embrace where he/she can express their own needs, feelings desires and ideas with a consideration of others.
Developing an assertive communication involves;
- Taking responsibility of one owns action
- Maintaining an eye contact
- Avoid blaming others
- Learning to say “no” when appropriate.
- Voicing needs and desires confidently without being ashamed.
- Establishing Yourself as a Key Communicator
Some simple communication tips that a child can learn to better communicate with those around him/her include:
- Actively listening before speaking
- Proper use of non- verbal cues (body language)
- Being clear in whatever they are communicating
- Communicating respectfully
- Having confidence
